Mom Boss Mentality
In these last few days of the month of Mother’s Day and Our Lady, I’m thinking a lot more about motherhood. The selfless, professional jugglers we all are, day after day. I’ve been thinking about how our mom gigs have been completely challenged these past few months, and how we’ve scrambled to pull it together, and gain control of what we could. I’ve been thinking how that makes us all walking miracles ;) I’ve also been thinking how insanely hard on ourselves we are. That dichotomy has led me to look at my new favorite label, The Mom Boss, with a new mindset. I remember hearing that term long ago, and it just didn’t resonate. It was actually a turn off to the kind of mom I thought I wanted to be. But out of recent necessity for more control (pregnancy #4, quarantined kids) and necessity of more letting go, this label has been extremely helpful. It’s a confidence booster, “That’s right, God gave me these children and qualified me for this job!” “He’s commanded me to train up my children in the way they should go, and He promised to be with me!” and a confidence placer, (like when ready to escape for a break, or a complaint of I don’t want to do this), in Jesus. It’s about recognizing the mark of a good boss isn’t always one that sucks it up and pushes herself into red zone, but who remembers her place and knows her own limits. It’s remembering that our confidence as a mom boss is rooted in Christ’s confidence for us. As one of my favorite bloggers recently shared, when you’re ready to collapse and tell the kids “I just can’t do it all,” remember that you’re not supposed to. We are not the heart of our homes, she says, Christ is. Our job is to show up with our fishes and loaves, leaving God to work the miracles. That’s my key to the moss boss mentality. I’m called to lead them to their Savior, not be the Savior for them. I’m not called to be a sinless perfect boss to my kids. I’m called to admit my need for forgiveness so they can hear, and show them that a good boss tries to follow their own leaders themselves. Thankfully, our leader is the one good Shepard who is kind, patient, humble, and always leads in perfect goodness. That’s the refreshing key to the mom boss mentality, it’s not all on us, and it was never meant to be. So, as a good mom boss I must try my hardest, but know when to admit, “honestly, I can’t right now, I don’t know right now.” And as a great mom boss I can humbly advise, “Go to Jesus and ask Him. He will never let you down.” Thankfully, we’re all qualified for that, and it’s quite an encouraging mentality :)
