Supporting Postpartum Moms

I’m about a month away from my third trimester, the fourth time. Feeling his constant little kicks. Making the reality of his birth, more real. Although I’ve had three natural births (stories to follow!), there’s always new anxieties and uncertainties. Yet, besides the birth, is the afterbirth, the fourth trimester. 

I remember the newness after my first. The milk shockingly shooting across the room, leaving the perineal ice pack on too long, tediously changing the circumcised diaper, recording his every move. I remember the overwhelming love shown to that first grandchild, as my mom & mother in law stuffed the fridge with food. 

The winter with our second. Just moved to a new town, witnessing the church community unbelievably welcome us at our door with cards and warm meals. The tears of transitioning to two, the fear of pressing play to another movie or another cereal meal for the toddler while I nursed the baby. 

The summer with our third. The surprise of ease, the relief of the other boys distracting bond. More meals, more visits. The deep appreciation of knowing I could never do this alone, no matter what number baby. 

Learning the biggest impact to my mental, physical, & spiritual post-partum health has been the support of other women. The small efforts, the acknowledged thoughts. 

Motherhood isn’t easy, and it doesn’t get easier with more. It does expand our hearts more than we ever imagined. Accept the help when you can, and know that your time will come to pay it forward. 

Six ways to support a post-partum mother: 

1. Make her family a meal. Create a meal train. Doesn’t have to be gourmet. 

2. Watch her other kids. Take them to the park. Give her an uninterrupted nap. 

3. Do her house chores. Pack the dishwasher or straighten the toys when you drop off a meal. 

4. Surprise her with a special treat. Just for her, an iced latte or a Twix bar. 

5. Remind her to rest. Help her rid the guilt of not leaving the couch. 

6. Affirm her motherhood. Text her praise affirmations. Comment on every baby photo she posts. You’re doing wonderful! You look great!

Let’s show the world women supporting women in action! Tag a mama who’s been there! 

In Joy,

Alex